Someone clicked on this post imagining I was going to talk about real PYJAMAS… *Shake My Head* 😀
Full Title: The Pains & Joys of a Career Girl
I am an avid fiction reader. Titles that always make my cut border around plots set in academic environments or career-focused heroines. This is why Louise Bagshawe’s Career Girls is gingerly peering down at me from my bookshelf, sandwiched between massive auto-biographies and media textbooks. I particularly love when the heroine is a successful author, top music executive, high power broker in Hollywood or a fashion magazine publisher – they just give me the adrenaline boost. These novels have a way of milking the glam side of that busy life, while leaving out the
hard-work intense hard-work bit and of course the sacrifices.
It then occurred to me that I could balance out the fantasy by asking career girls to describe what it feels like – the pains, joys and challenges. It’s not just about flying from city to city cradling an iPhone or the latest Blackberry (androids, please make way :P), spotting red-soled heels and giving Beyonce a run for her looks. There is more to it than glitz and glam.
I embarked on an e-vox-populi of career girls, to tell me how they felt about being career girls:
Being a career girl is a continuous balancing act…a continuous struggle to balance being taken seriously as a woman and retaining your unique feminity.
Chika – the Naija Careerist
It’s a great feeling knowing that you are going after your true aspirations while still rocking a pair of heels.
Damilola – Ms Modish
Basically,i’m waiting for my big break, when I can determine where and how my time is spent.
Being a career girl comes with the satisfaction I had always hoped i’d derive in the fashion industry. Nothing tops knowing that i want to be the best fashion editor around, thereby giving me the motivation to give fashion editing my 100%.
To be honest, I didn’t set out to be a career girl o! I think I just naturally got stereotyped by people because I love books and have high aspirations. Wait, is that what it means to be a career girl? I used to joke with my friends that I would end up as a full time stay at home mum (modern for full time work from home). Okay, don’t know if i’m answering your question. But the bottom line is that I have no apology for being a little over ambitious than the average girl next door. I just love attempting things bigger, learning, learning and learning new things to progress and grow and in the process expand my horizon. This comes with the huge sacrifice of being stereotyped as a “career girl” with no room for them to understand that you still work with your two feet touching the ground.
I have also had to give up a lot of things. I feel sorry for the little girl inside of me. Sometimes I feel I overwork her when all she really wants is to have fun. Well, as the saying goes, work now and play later.
I’m learning to balance it all – work, study, career, social and spiritual life- all rolled into one exciting pack.
Back to Me
In my books, theses wonderful women (all in their 20s by the way) have said it all, and I am mega proud of them.
The summary here is that being career focused comes with a sense of fulfilment from every step you take up the ladder to something as minute as the personally-paid-for handbag you are carrying. Call them Miss Independent, *shrugs*.
The challenge of being in this category is that you always seem to miss out on all the fun your contemporaries are having (in the long term, I see that as an advantage), in some industries, you probably have to work twice as hard to prove your mettle and get your head far above water level. In most instances, you are not in control of your time, and your social life feels the heat. However, nothing can compare to the joy of sitting in that chair and knowing deep down in your heart, that you are just where you want to be.
As 2011 wraps itself up neatly, I wish everyone a fantastic Christmas and a 2012 loaded with massive promotions in our respective careers.
- Remember, work hard and play hard!!!
- I just might see you before the new year. If I don’t – *cue in fireworks*
- Thanks for staying here with me.